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A Bit about the Science behind the Coaching Process,
(Or what is it all about?)



It is all about you and getting the best in your life. Reading these notes will assist your understanding of the important positives and negatives in each of our lives and how we are all made in ways that allow us to evolve. You will gain helpful knowledge of the areas where life change can bring success, enabling achievement of goals in so very many areas of life. By applying the benefits of coaching techniques and insights we change our perceptions about our world in a way that that makes better equipped and more effective.

We are witnessing times of big transformation of our civilization. We can now share knowledge much faster than ever before. Life Coaching brings together knowledge from several disciplines and we will share with you and will show you how you can use this knowledge to make life changes. You will learn about your mind, the most powerful creation known to us. You will learn how to harness its power and use it to achieve your full potential, and attain goals you previously never imagined were possible.

What are you made of?

You are made of the exact same things as stars are made of – hydrogen, oxygen, nitrogen and carbon. You can downsize your body into the following:
Nervous System / Vascular System / Muscular System
Organs: Brain / Lungs / Stomach / Skin
Subatomic Particles
Protons and Electrons
Neurons, Gluons, Quarks and Mesons (Electromagnetic vibration waves of light called QUANTA)
Ultimately you are made of energy.

Your Physical Senses

From when we can remember we have been taught to rely and use our 5 physical senses. We see, hear, smell, taste and touch. Even though our experience of any one of these can be very overwhelming and intense they are actually very limited in nature. We can smell, but there is so much more to smell – ask dogs! They can smell so much more than we can! Yes, we can see, but there is so much more to see.

Your Powerful Brain

The most significant discovery post 1990 is that our brains are not hard wired. Thanks to modern science we can now monitor brain activity and so establish which part of the brain is responsible for what functions. This is how it was established that our brain is not hard wired. It can create new neural ‐ pathways, retract the old ones, etc. This is called brain plasticity.

We also learned that our thoughts are physical. They are bioelectrical and biochemical impulses and better yet, they are the most potent energy known to us.
Imagine the vast power of your mind as an iceberg, the part above the water represents your Conscious Mind and the huge volume under the surface is your Unconscious Mind. It also represents how limited is our vision of the bigger picture. Did we ever see an Iceberg and wonder about its size under the water? We are accustomed to just accepting only what we can see.

Prime directives of The Unconscious Mind:

Forms 83% of our brain mass
Controls 97% of our perception and behaviour
Averages 10 billion actions per second
Is symbolic ‐ uses pictures and patterns
Does not distinguish reality from what is imagined
Accepts everything to be true
Works in an orderly manner
Stores memories
Is the domain of emotions
Represses memories with unresolved negative emotion
Presents repressed memories for resolution
Runs the body (has a blueprint of body now, and of perfect health)
Preserves the body (maintain the integrity of the body)
Is a highly moral being (the morality you were taught and accepted)
Works on the principle of least effort (path of least resistance)
Does not process negatives directly
Maintains instincts and generate habits
Needs repetition until a habit is installed
Is programmed to continually seek more and more
Functions best as a whole integrated unit
Takes everything personally (the basis of Perception is Projection)

Your Unconscious Mind is for you and your body what an operating system is for your computer. It runs everything, it stores your memories, beliefs and habits, regenerates cells in your body; runs your heart, sending blood through your veins; controls the immune system. It really runs everything in your life. It controls over 96% of your behaviour.

And you think that you are in charge for your decisions? Well, you could be substantially more in control and more integrated.

How the Unconscious Mind works

The ideas that have been fixed in your Unconscious mind through education, repetition or impact; form your conditioning. They have giving you Strategies that you use in everyday life. Your hidden self‐image resides here. Your thought process, the thoughts that you have during the day are governed by your belief system, your values and your habitual Strategies

Your Belief system (what you believe) is a network of neurological pathways. We inherit beliefs, they get imprinted on us, and we develop our own, based on our experiences.

Even deeper in the unconscious mind, we have Values. We almost never even think about our values, and we developed many of them in our childhood. Later in life, we have to understand them in order to be able to choose to change them. Values are at the centre of what will decide how and on what we spend our time. Values are how we know what is good or bad; all our moral values are there.

Our belief system and values are what we refer to as our conditioned mind. This is where most of the action happens throughout the day. This is what determines our thoughts and our perception of the world, our attitude, and our actions! This is what will drive our focus, which will produce the thinking patterns, which will produce a certain behaviour, which will determine our results.

How we get results in life-

The unconscious mind functions in every cell of your body. Any thought you consciously choose to impress upon it, must be accepted and expressed through you. Your unconscious mind has no ability to reject thoughts, what you think easily becomes part of your beliefs. Then the unconscious mind expresses those beliefs through your feelings and actions.

Any thought you consciously choose to repeatedly impress upon the unconscious becomes fixed as part of our personality. Fixed ideas will then continue to express themselves without any conscious assistance, until they are replaced. Fixed ideas are known as habits and the collective habits are referred to as the conditioned mind.

The Unconscious mind is frequently referred to as the spiritual side of personality or the universal mind. The Unconscious mind knows no limits. ‐ It only accepts those limits you consciously choose. It looks for patterns and images in our "outside world" that match our "inside world". Information that does not match up gets dropped.

When we gain a new understanding the brain creates a new neural‐pathway storing that knowledge for future access. When faced with that situation again you would be able to identify it quickly as you access that neural‐pathway containing the understanding.

Initially new neural‐pathways are weak and fragile. As you reinforce your learning they become more dominant and will form a firm belief. You always choose the most dominant belief when faced with conflicting beliefs. If you could learn to constantly reinforce your desired beliefs, they would grow and connect with other pathways and eventually become a dominant belief to give you control of perception and behaviour and thus you become empowered to achieve your chosen outcomes.

Reticular Activation System (RAS)

Your senses process approximately 2 million bits per second of information. This is too much to consciously process. Your RAS (Reticular Activation System) copes with the mass of information by distorting, deleting and generalising it down to 134 bits per second. It forms part of your unconscious mind and functions up to 800 times faster than your conscious mind. Every sensory impulse received will go through a process where first the Unconscious Mind decides whether the information received is important to you or not. In other words, it will pass on the information received to your conscious mind only, if information received is on your priority list.

For example, if the impulse received is a sound of an alarm siren, it will quickly prioritise it for you, passing this information to your conscious mind, grabbing your attention regardless of what you were busy with at that time. This happens because the alarm sound is on your priority list, as a result of your mind being conditioned to act when hearing a siren.

This means that you need to learn to upload what is really important to you to your RAS. This is exactly why, when you concentrate much of your attention on problems like debt, all your RAS can bring to your attention is more of what you have stressed as important to it. If you worry about debt constantly, it will impress itself to your priority list and your RAS will do whatever it can, to bring more of it to your attention. It will see debt as a priority as you were focusing so much on it. Remember, its job is to find in the outside world everything that matches to your inside world. For this reason we need to order our inside world.

The Unconscious Mind seeks to remain in its comfort zone. The process picks up any deviation from your comfort zone and sends feedback to your nervous system which then tries to "correct" the deviation by creating emotional stimulus to bring you back into your comfort zone. This happens automatically and normally we have no idea that it's happening at all. We start justifying old behaviour, such as it is perfectly reasonable to take a break since you have worked so hard and the Unconscious Mind will supply dozens of excuses for why we should relax a bit and slow down – bringing us back to your old comfort zone, regardless of if we were miserable there or not.

This is a very critical point. Without resetting this system – nothing will change. The way were are, our internal system, causes us to behave in a certain way, day in and day out; it causes us to perceive everything that is in alignment with our old beliefs, and our old comfort zone. The good news is that you can reset our perceptions and change the world we live in.

The processes and programmes we offer assist you to understand the old thought patterns and to make you choices about the new life you choose for yourself. Consider this as a first step towards achieving your goals.

What is your Conscious Mind?

Controls only 2 – 4% of actual perceptions and behaviour.
This is the part of you that thinks and reasons. Your free will lies here.
This is the part of your mind that will decide the changes required to live the type of life you want to experience.
The conscious mind can accept or reject any idea.
The thoughts of your Conscious mind are heard by your Unconscious mind and will determine the results in your life.
Sets goals...Judges Results
Time‐Bound Past and Future
Limited Processing Capability, 5-7 events at a time

When comparing the functions and abilities of the conscious mind to the unconscious mind it is easy to see that real lasting change occurs in the unconscious mind.

The five senses can process only a small portion of all the information that can possibly reach your conscious mind. This is why we say that there is so much more to see and hear than what is available to you consciously.

Remember that you are consciously responsible for only 3% of your perceptions and behaviour. And that is what is causing your actions, creating results in your life. You could be trying your absolute best, working hard at something, and it simply won't matter, as that would be only 3% of your total actions and perceptions. That is why we are all stuck where we are, no matter how much we want to change.

Unless you learn to reset these wonderful systems in our mind, and get them to work for us, nothing will ever change. Without change we keep doing what we always did, and we then always get only what we always got. And that happens regardless of how badly we want that change consciously.

Negative Emotions

There is another important role that emotions play in our lives – that of our health. Positive emotions are great for our body - think about it! What happens when we are experiencing any positive excitement, any form of happiness? Our whole body goes to that state, the moment our unconscious mind starts processing them, every cell of our body will start dancing and glowing, and we have huge amounts of energy flowing through our body. Just as positive emotions are good for our body, so negative emotions are bad for our body and we seriously need to get free from the negativity. Negative Emotions are not good for the body. In fact, they are the biggest cause of disease. Many degenerative diseases are caused by either a significant negative emotional event, or by an excess of unprocessed negative emotions.

The five major negative emotions are Anger, Sadness, Fear, Hurt and Guilt. Your mind will keep them on your "time Line" until it gets some help to release the negative whilst retaining the learnings, which brings resolution to these events. We were never taught how to let go of them properly. We say "I dealt with it long ago, it doesn't affect me anymore." Or "I buried that long ago, that is behind me." And unfortunately, that is exactly what we do – we bury them inside of our bodies, and they cause stress to the body, to the organs and our well being. They will cause blockages and diseases.

To make our situation worse we also accept the limiting beliefs related to our experiences. We live our lives believing and behaving in accordance to the limitations we accepted.

Our training and personal coaching deals with Negative Emotions and with Limiting Beliefs, to clear these negatives emotions from your past in a way that allows your mind to extract all the life learning you need to know from those events, and then to be able to let them drop away. You will still have the memories and a good recollection of those events, but you will no longer suffer the experience of the negative emotions attached to the event, because you will know it has taught you something important and you have no need to retain any emotional memory. In other words, when you think of that event you will not be overwhelmed with those intense emotions that you used to have associated with that event.

The objective here is not to eliminate anyone's ability to feel any warranted emotion. We deal with the past emotions that are not serving you, but instead are hurting your body. Usually, after this part of our programme people feel lighter, and relieved that their emotional baggage is gone. Sometimes people notice their eyes seem more open and sense a shadow disappearing from their face. You would certainly feel more content with yourself - like never before. And this would be groundbreaking; the most beneficial thing you could do for yourself. Letting go of the past, being in perfect harmony and peace with the events that have happened already, focusing on your future, and allowing your dreams come true, because suddenly you are filled with energy and optimism.

We can't change the past, but we should not live in it. We should live in the Now, making the day the best we know how. This is a skill that needs to be communicated to your unconscious mind, giving it clear instructions, in a way that it will understand. It loves to serve you, and it's more than happy to let go of all of these negative emotions. Holding on to them is in direct conflict with the highest prime directive of the unconscious mind, which is 'To Preserve the Body'.

You know the value in settling with your past, and getting your unconscious onboard with your conscious objectives. Our coaching helps clients clarify desired outcomes, so that their mind can support them in the actualising of their goals – with unrivalled focus and clear path towards their future.

These steps are priceless on their own, for those who understand the true meaning of a clear future. They are also the first steps which are very necessary to realign the past with the desired future, to clear your body of all the negative emotions and to make for yourself an incredible support system; supporting you in your attaining you desired future outcomes.

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